A little over a year on, and it still feels like it’s just beginning to hit home.
The phone doesn’t ring anymore, the messages aren’t coming and the random food turning up just doesn’t occur.
Mum’s name, synonymous with Spring, symbolises her triumph over all her struggles, all her fears, and all her weaknesses.
She defied all the odds, and blossomed into an amazing superhuman.
Mum’s nature was so multifaceted, trying to manage each relationship without the baggage of generational expectation, bringing up into being, a persona that became so equipped to deal with so many different personalities.
Her last few weeks became nuggets of gold deliver by the trove.
One of which was a phrase “I care and I don’t care”. Sang and I were talking about a personality clash and mum just said, look I do care, but at the same time I just don’t want the over caring to paralyse forward momentum.
She became frustrated at personality management in the face of progress that she just had reached her limit.
It’s not that she couldn’t give a shit, it’s that she’d give so much leeway that it became a game of just being stuck.
And that was too much.
Spring brings about a new beginning, a fresh start, a way to look to the beauty of the ever growing daylight.
The same soil, year after year, gives the same crocus’s and daffodils, but each year they come back stronger and more colourful – because someone went around and added nutrition to the ground.
Mum would want the fruition to grow, adding more energy into the mix each time, doing the same wasn’t an option, each time to be better, to come back stronger, to improve and excel beyond our own limitation.
As spring approaches, mum, keep us energised. ❤️❤️


In the ocean there are fish
In the end of this all, it will be transparent how we have really dealt with and looked after our most elderly, at need, and marginalised that will be displayed as either a mark of greatness, or a stain on our society and nation.
It was whilst considering my plastic foot print that I realised I go through about 2 blades a week, and dispose of these un-recyclable blades straight into the trash.
Somehow it doesn’t have the same ring as Nirvanas ‘Heart Shaped Box’ but it made me happier that he song did to see that my sone was beginning to enjoy the pleasures of cooking.